Barb Heite - Beautiful Mess
Monday, September 19, 2016
Friday, May 27, 2016
Divine Order

Divine Order
I'm sitting in a public place... with lots of people
around ... and there is a couple within ear range ... Trying Politely to be unheard
of their expressions of being unkind, unloving, and unseeing of the other
person... Throwing mean spirited comments at each other...In a clip acceptable
tone.... through their expression of defensiveness or protectiveness.... Trying
to express what they really want... What really lies at the heart of the
matter.... of what they truly want but do not have the understanding....
Practice of asking.... and probably scared to hear the answer....of what love
is and feels like to each of them.... because what if the answer was what each
fears.... losing... not being good enough, not mattering, in someone’s world
that each have care and love for, and that their current struggle (fear) is
worthy of compassion and tenderness.... it really does not matter of the details
of their current battle.... of a never ending silent war of fear of not being
seen.... both worthy warriors of their hearts.... Both actually
"fighting" the same fight ... and not even aware of it.... so focused
on winning the current battle... focused on only one path to conquering and
being the victor... that the courageous warriors are blinded to other paths....
less treaded... as it takes a conscious effort to consider..., remember to
use... Paths less traveled..... As I sit here... and look at each
of their faces.... I instantly feel their unexpressed longings.... I breathe...
and look away.... And see it is their path.... To explore their world together
they both created to learn and grow from.... I make Eye contact with one of
them ... for an instant and I smile... and she smiles back with a smile that
does not express through her eyes... and I look away... and she steps back onto
their battlefield... I sit for a moment and reflect...and say a small prayer
inward.... That this lovely couple finds the courage to ask... and to be able
to accept whatever unfolds... and that they both come to a full awareness that
each have value, that each of them matter, and are loved.... and this truth
becomes anchored in their core of their hearts.....sooner rather than
later....then I think.. it is a beautiful experience to witness sparks of
connections of others.... The gift for me is.... I realize those truths are
true of me... that I have value, that I also matter in someone’s world, and
very much loved.... and I know this to be true....and my next thought is I just
made this witnessing of others sparks about me.... and the next thought is this
was meant for me to witness... a gift for me to choose to "see" or
not see.... Everything is in divine order....and I am blessed and humbled for
my sparks today....
Love Love<3
Tuesday, May 24, 2016
Gifts

Gifts
I know in my heart as long as I keep going forward I will be successful... I try not to define what that looks like but rather create connections and opportunities to lead and guide me in my heart callings... there are no mistakes.....Just lessons and gifts...we get to attach the worth of the lessons and gifts...To build and grow from or to tear and destroy from... We are responsible for choosing happiness and understanding our own inherent worth...
Love Love<3
Friday, May 20, 2016
Victimhood

Victimhood
As a victim there is no growth.
As a victim we stay blind to the truth... as a victim we believe in the
illusions we create to feel safe.. as a victim we cannot be unconditionally
loving....as a victim we cannot be whole... as a victim we create and feed
fears of being unwanted, unimportant, unloving... Creating an illusion and.
distraction of being a victim is exhausting.... and keeps us stuck...In the
mud... Drudgery... of the poor me syndrome... once we see it we can make
different choices to stay stuck or start moving forward out of the mud ... take
responsibility.... find the gifts in each experience and find center and choose
to create peace and be in the flow of love....It is our responsibility to look
and see ask questions of self... and to be tender with our own hearts while
doing the best we can. There is no wrong or right way to live one’s life...Just
lessons and gifts... and at least for me, is comforting to know... and feel
to my core as I come to my final phases of letting go and being scared to do
so... Finding safety in my illusion of being a victim in my version of
truth...after a while creates a breath for me to step back from the story and
really see me... finding strength to see the truth and evaluate choices and
expressed my feelings of less than... and start the journey back to connecting
with me, God, you... The truth of who I am... We are... And that is we are the
essence of love ... We are love
Love Love <3
Tuesday, May 17, 2016
Touch

Touch
Are You Touched Deprived?
We are so busy with our daily tasks, our
minds always checking something off the top of our internal to do list only to
add more tasks at the bottom. We create a never ending, numb minding, and never
completed list. Every once in a while we stop and take a breath and feel for a
moment. And what most of us feel is overwhelmed, unappreciated, and alone, even
when we are with others.
In our computer tech savvy world we have
become more isolated than ever. We connect through virtual reality, texting,
Face Book, Skype, email, etc. This connection keeps us feeling okay and even in
moments connected. The one thing our computer tech savvy world does not do is
create the skin-to-skin contact. We can literally go days without any human
touch as we complete our list of tasks. The thought of platonic touch terrifies
some people. In fact many people are downright uncomfortable with any type of
personal nurturing touch including eye contact.
When we lack positive nurturing touch in
our lives there is a slew of side effects on our spiritual, mental, and
physical state. There is so much research out there about the healing power of
touch and how without it life can be miserable. We experience more fear, feel
isolated, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, experience body aches and pains.
Overtime, our bodies lack of nurturing touch, can lead to chronic illnesses;
high blood pressure, tension, headaches, all the way to cancer and terminal
illnesses. And that is just the tip of the iceberg. The effect on our mental
and spiritual state is affected by our physical state. When one is out of
balance so are the others. The power of touch is really about the power of you
internally.
When we touch for an extended amount of
time our bodies’ release a powerful hormone called oxytocin and triggers our
vagus nerve. The vagus nerve runs from our base of our skull to approximately
to our belly button. This important trigger of the vagus nerve is what gives us
that warm and fuzzy feeling we experience. Oxytocin also gives us that sense of
well being. Touch Therapy has numerous positive affects in our lives. The
benefits of experiencing nurturing platonic touch create not only the sense of
well being which relieves stress, which relieves tension, which gives us room to
relax and just be in the moment. Touch therapy reduces blood pressure, lower
Cortisol levels (stress hormone), creates a feeling of safety, acceptance, and
bonding with your world. There is really no down side to positive nurturing
touch therapy.
If you are not giving and receiving
approximately 20 minutes of platonic nurturing touch with family and friends
daily you are really compromising yourself. Missing this key ingredient of
platonic nurturing touch will overtime have a negative effect on you on every
level creating an imbalance in mind, body, spirit.
Touch therapy has been used with sick
children and with terminally ill patients in hospitals and is widely used
practice for the sick. This practice and study of touch therapy has now
begun to catch the attention of people outside the hospital/university studies
and is now becoming a service offered to everyday people through professional
cuddlers in platonic nurturing safe environments. Professional Cuddlers
services are established in states like New York, California, and Oregon and Arizona.
Touch Therapy sounds scary for some but
once you get past the awkwardness of learning to be in another’s space it
becomes something that you start to naturally crave. Touch therapy is practiced
at peoples comfort levels so they can experience the benefits of platonic
nurturing touch therapy
Your internal to-do list should include one more very important thing; daily platonic nurturing touch. Learn and implement touch therapy in your life now. When you can consciously choose and take responsibility to contribute to your state of happiness we all benefit. Touch therapy is a win/win for everyone. Everybody gets the benefit of you taking care of you. Touch therapy gives you the time and space to show up more loving in your world. How cool is that?
Love Love <3
Tuesday, May 10, 2016
At Times

At Times
I resist looking into the darkest corners of me...
Which through my filters of my stories feels like the blackest of places....
But darkness only exist to the realities of the narrator... The one who
describes through words... What the darkest parts feel and look like.... Then
there is the SELF.. The center... When awakened... That can look at the
darkness and let the light in to see the truth of the facts and not the
perception of the beliefs of the feelings attached to the facts to make sense
of my internal world.
It is an awakening to the truth... an acceptance to the truth of the
"whole of me" I can take breaths and center in Self... Joy, peace, a
knowing of my worth and how much I am truly loved... Through those chosen
moments.... I stop the world for me... Going for walks, lying flat in the
darkness of my room watching the shadow dance of the flame of a lit candle,
meditating with the softness of a melodic hunting song... That transports me
inward to my universe within to seek the truth of all of Who I Am
I am at times... Fall into my co- dependency.... Forgetting my worth looking
for validation outwards... I'm hyper sensitive ... a gift most of the time... a
protection to hide in some of the time.... I go to "extreme" thinking
and martyrdom.... a victim in my story... and denial will slip in protecting me
from what I fear most... afraid of... My weakness in my belief of not fitting
in or being rejected.... It comes up when I attach... Have an expectation... I
hyper tuned in to find evidence of these illusions.... But I also know the
truth of my talents... I am curious.... Brave... On occasion even wise... Can
find joy in most situations... My gifts to grow from.... I am trusting... But I
also shake visibly when I choose to speak my truth of me... Using my
voice.....practicing unconditionally loving the best I know how
Love Love <3
Friday, May 6, 2016
My Inner Child

My
Inner Child
I feel her expressing through my
feelings
I feel her cry
I feel her laugh & giggle
I feel her rage
I feel her sorrow
And in times of stillness I can
receive her wisdom
I feel her promptings
She is my best friend
She is my guide
She is my inner voice
She is true to me and does not lie
She is wonder and joy
She is imagination and surprise
She is gratitude
She is the light that shines within
me
She is faith and awareness
She has courage as big as the
universe
And the gentleness and softness of
angel wings
She is the inner warmth of an embrace
She sees the world through her cherub
eyes
She is the reflection of moonbeams
and all that shimmers
And she has the knack of leaving a
little sparkle trail behind
She is why I am here
She is my purpose
She is an expression of love
She is me
Love Love<3