Monday, September 19, 2016

Each Day your job is  to show up as your best self. Period. That is the real achievement.

Friday, May 27, 2016

Divine Order


Divine Order

I'm sitting in a public place... with lots of people around ... and there is a couple within ear range ... Trying Politely to be unheard of their expressions of being unkind, unloving, and unseeing of the other person... Throwing mean spirited comments at each other...In a clip acceptable tone.... through their expression of defensiveness or protectiveness.... Trying to express what they really want... What really lies at the heart of the matter.... of what they truly want but do not have the understanding.... Practice of asking.... and probably scared to hear the answer....of what love is and feels like to each of them.... because what if the answer was what each fears.... losing... not being good enough, not mattering, in someone’s world that each have care and love for, and that their current struggle (fear) is worthy of compassion and tenderness.... it really does not matter of the details of their current battle.... of a never ending silent war of fear of not being seen.... both worthy warriors of their hearts.... Both actually "fighting" the same fight ... and not even aware of it.... so focused on winning the current battle... focused on only one path to conquering and being the victor... that the courageous warriors are blinded to other paths.... less treaded... as it takes a conscious effort to consider..., remember to use...  Paths less traveled..... As I sit here...  and look at each of their faces.... I instantly feel their unexpressed longings.... I breathe... and look away.... And see it is their path.... To explore their world together they both created to learn and grow from.... I make Eye contact with one of them ... for an instant and I smile... and she smiles back with a smile that does not express through her eyes... and I look away... and she steps back onto their battlefield... I sit for a moment and reflect...and say a small prayer inward.... That this lovely couple finds the courage to ask... and to be able to accept whatever unfolds... and that they both come to a full awareness that each have value, that each of them matter, and are loved.... and this truth becomes anchored in their core of their hearts.....sooner rather than later....then I think.. it is a beautiful experience to witness sparks of connections of others.... The gift for me is.... I realize those truths are true of me... that I have value, that I also matter in someone’s world, and very much loved.... and I know this to be true....and my next thought is I just made this witnessing of others sparks about me.... and the next thought is this was meant for me to witness... a gift for me to choose to "see" or not see.... Everything is in divine order....and I am blessed and humbled for my sparks today....


Love Love<3


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Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Gifts



Gifts

I know in my heart as long as I keep going forward I will be successful... I try not to define what that looks like but rather create connections and opportunities to lead and guide me in my heart callings... there are no mistakes.....Just lessons and gifts...we get to attach the worth of the lessons and gifts...To build and grow from or to tear and destroy from... We are responsible for choosing happiness and understanding our own inherent worth...


Love Love<3


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Friday, May 20, 2016

Victimhood


Victimhood

As a victim there is no growth. As a victim we stay blind to the truth... as a victim we believe in the illusions we create to feel safe.. as a victim we cannot be unconditionally loving....as a victim we cannot be whole... as a victim we create and feed fears of being unwanted, unimportant, unloving... Creating an illusion and. distraction of being a victim is exhausting.... and keeps us stuck...In the mud... Drudgery... of the poor me syndrome... once we see it we can make different choices to stay stuck or start moving forward out of the mud ... take responsibility.... find the gifts in each experience and find center and choose to create peace and be in the flow of love....It is our responsibility to look and see ask questions of self... and to be tender with our own hearts while doing the best we can. There is no wrong or right way to live one’s life...Just lessons and gifts...  and at least for me, is comforting to know... and feel to my core as I come to my final phases of letting go and being scared to do so... Finding safety in my illusion of being a victim in my version of truth...after a while creates a breath for me to step back from the story and really see me... finding strength to see the truth and evaluate choices and expressed my feelings of less than... and start the journey back to connecting with me, God, you... The truth of who I am... We are... And that is we are the essence of love ... We are love

Love Love <3

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Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Touch


Touch

Are You Touched Deprived?

We are so busy with our daily tasks, our minds always checking something off the top of our internal to do list only to add more tasks at the bottom. We create a never ending, numb minding, and never completed list. Every once in a while we stop and take a breath and feel for a moment. And what most of us feel is overwhelmed, unappreciated, and alone, even when we are with others.

In our computer tech savvy world we have become more isolated than ever. We connect through virtual reality, texting, Face Book, Skype, email, etc. This connection keeps us feeling okay and even in moments connected. The one thing our computer tech savvy world does not do is create the skin-to-skin contact. We can literally go days without any human touch as we complete our list of tasks. The thought of platonic touch terrifies some people. In fact many people are downright uncomfortable with any type of personal nurturing touch including eye contact.

When we lack positive nurturing touch in our lives there is a slew of side effects on our spiritual, mental, and physical state. There is so much research out there about the healing power of touch and how without it life can be miserable. We experience more fear, feel isolated, anxious, overwhelmed, depressed, experience body aches and pains. Overtime, our bodies lack of nurturing touch, can lead to chronic illnesses; high blood pressure, tension, headaches, all the way to cancer and terminal illnesses. And that is just the tip of the iceberg. The effect on our mental and spiritual state is affected by our physical state. When one is out of balance so are the others. The power of touch is really about the power of you internally.

When we touch for an extended amount of time our bodies’ release a powerful hormone called oxytocin and triggers our vagus nerve. The vagus nerve runs from our base of our skull to approximately to our belly button. This important trigger of the vagus nerve is what gives us that warm and fuzzy feeling we experience. Oxytocin also gives us that sense of well being. Touch Therapy has numerous positive affects in our lives. The benefits of experiencing nurturing platonic touch create not only the sense of well being which relieves stress, which relieves tension, which gives us room to relax and just be in the moment. Touch therapy reduces blood pressure, lower Cortisol levels (stress hormone), creates a feeling of safety, acceptance, and bonding with your world. There is really no down side to positive nurturing touch therapy.

If you are not giving and receiving approximately 20 minutes of platonic nurturing touch with family and friends daily you are really compromising yourself. Missing this key ingredient of platonic nurturing touch will overtime have a negative effect on you on every level creating an imbalance in mind, body, spirit.

Touch therapy has been used with sick children and with terminally ill patients in hospitals and is widely used practice for the sick.  This practice and study of touch therapy has now begun to catch the attention of people outside the hospital/university studies and is now becoming a service offered to everyday people through professional cuddlers in platonic nurturing safe environments. Professional Cuddlers services are established in states like New York, California, and Oregon and Arizona. 

Touch Therapy sounds scary for some but once you get past the awkwardness of learning to be in another’s space it becomes something that you start to naturally crave. Touch therapy is practiced at peoples comfort levels so they can experience the benefits of platonic nurturing touch therapy

Your internal to-do list should include one more very important thing; daily platonic nurturing touch.  Learn and implement touch therapy in your life now. When you can consciously choose and take responsibility to contribute to your state of happiness we all benefit. Touch therapy is a win/win for everyone. Everybody gets the benefit of you taking care of you. Touch therapy gives you the time and space to show up more loving in your world. How cool is that?


Love Love <3


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Tuesday, May 10, 2016

At Times


At Times

I resist looking into the darkest corners of me... Which through my filters of my stories feels like the blackest of places.... But darkness only exist to the realities of the narrator... The one who describes through words... What the darkest parts feel and look like.... Then there is the SELF.. The center... When awakened... That can look at the darkness and let the light in to see the truth of the facts and not the perception of the beliefs of the feelings attached to the facts to make sense of my internal world.

It is an awakening to the truth... an acceptance to the truth of the "whole of me" I can take breaths and center in Self... Joy, peace, a knowing of my worth and how much I am truly loved... Through those chosen moments.... I stop the world for me... Going for walks, lying flat in the darkness of my room watching the shadow dance of the flame of a lit candle, meditating with the softness of a melodic hunting song... That transports me inward to my universe within to seek the truth of all of Who I Am

I am at times... Fall into my co- dependency.... Forgetting my worth looking for validation outwards... I'm hyper sensitive ... a gift most of the time... a protection to hide in some of the time.... I go to "extreme" thinking and martyrdom.... a victim in my story... and denial will slip in protecting me from what I fear most... afraid of... My weakness in my belief of not fitting in or being rejected.... It comes up when I attach... Have an expectation... I hyper tuned in to find evidence of these illusions.... But I also know the truth of my talents... I am curious.... Brave... On occasion even wise... Can find joy in most situations... My gifts to grow from.... I am trusting... But I also shake visibly when I choose to speak my truth of me... Using my voice.....practicing unconditionally loving the best I know how


Love Love <3



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Friday, May 6, 2016

My Inner Child


My Inner Child

I feel her expressing through my feelings

I feel her cry

I feel her laugh & giggle

I feel her rage

I feel her sorrow

And in times of stillness I can receive her wisdom

I feel her promptings

She is my best friend

She is my guide

She is my inner voice

She is true to me and does not lie

She is wonder and joy

She is imagination and surprise

She is gratitude

She is the light that shines within me

She is faith and awareness

She has courage as big as the universe

And the gentleness and softness of angel wings

She is the inner warmth of an embrace

She sees the world through her cherub eyes

She is the reflection of moonbeams and all that shimmers

And she has the knack of leaving a little sparkle trail behind

She is why I am here

She is my purpose

She is an expression of love

She is me


Love Love<3



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